Allah Wants Womenâs Faces to Be Hidden From Everyone Always
One of the most remarkable among the many and varied tribal customs that survive in Saudi Arabia is one that forbids anyone at all seeing a womanâs face. In parts of the Al-Kharj region, not even a womanâs husband and children are permitted to see her face uncovered.
In interviews with Al-Kharj residents, Sayidaty, a sister publication of Arab News, heard that often the first time even a daughter sees her motherâs face is after the motherâs death. âI always dreamt of seeing my motherâs face because I am a woman like her,â resident Hissa Al-Massareir told the magazine. âBut because of customs and traditions in the family, this was impossible. It was only when my mother died that my dream came true,â she added.
Al-Kharj native Muhammad Abdullah has never seen his wifeâs face. âWeâve been married for ten years and Iâve never seen it, not once,â he said. The Burqa - the garment that covers all of [her] head except the eyes - âis stuck to her face 24 hours a dayâ, he said. âThis is not for want of trying. One day I tried to remove the Burqa while she was asleep. She was furious. She left and went to her parentsâ house and returned only after I had signed an undertaking that I would never attempt to do such a thing again.â
Saud Al-Otaibi also found his wife fiercely loyal to the custom. âI tried to blackmail my wife by saying Iâd marry another woman if she didnât show me her face,â he said. But he was in for a surprise. âInstead of giving in she said, all right, marry someone else. And she set me up with a friend of hers who wasnât so strict in her adherence to the custom, and I married her.â
Others report that they have become so used to not seeing the faces of even close relatives that they would be shocked if they did. âI have never seen my motherâs faceâ, Ahmad Bkhait told the magazine. âI tried many times but was always rebuffed. By now Iâd think it weird if she suddenly unveiled her faceâŠ
Posted by: Mike Sylwester 2004-02-23 |