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| Food at wedding receptions not allowed: IGP |
| 2005-01-18 |
 The inspector general (IG) of the Punjab Police has said that stern action would be taken against people who were violating the Marriage Ordinance. He issued directives to SSPs and DPOs all over the province to take strict action against the marriage ordinance violators. The Supreme Court (SC) of Pakistan has imposed a heavy penalty on people who serve meals at valima receptions. However, hotels are continuing to serve meals. |
| Posted by:Fred |
| #13 # 9 Seafarious you are correct about the law and the bridal industry complexity. I do have a friend, Rashmi (Pakistanian) who married my boss Dan....they were married in the United States and none of this occurred. What about the laws on SEX? Sorry- I don't ask Rashmi or Dan their business ! Andrea Jackson |
| Posted by: Andrea 2005-01-18 7:32:37 PM |
| #12 This is an outrage! |
| Posted by: The Punjab Association of Wedding Caterers 2005-01-18 5:02:01 PM |
| #11 Winthrop? I should have known by the furrowed brow and pursed lips. Clearly repressed, or maye constipated by too much massachusetts squash. |
| Posted by: lex 2005-01-18 3:30:46 PM |
| #10 There is usually dinner, and a chance for everyone to breathe a sigh of relief that it is all over. Do they mean the celebratory gun-sex? |
| Posted by: Rafael 2005-01-18 3:25:49 PM |
| #9 Actually, for this law, you can blame the bridal-industrial complex. Apparently the tradition of the wedding feast was getting way out of hand and astronomically expensive for the families of the brides. It had grown from a simple meal to a multiple-day affair, with some families going into hundreds of thousands of dollars into debt for one wedding... Here's a good article about it. |
| Posted by: Seafarious 2005-01-18 3:13:44 PM |
| #8 "So's dancing, music, the bride and groom holding hands with each other, " Dont they know you can have dancing WITHOUT men and women dancing together? Somebody get them a copy of fiddler on the roof, or an invitation to a chassidic wedding. Then again, maybe not. |
| Posted by: Liberalhawk 2005-01-18 3:11:09 PM |
| #7 The Valima is the Groom's reception. Ah, the chasan's tisch. except that comes BEFORE the ceremony, and therefore before the Yichud shteibel. Which is symbolic, nobody actually consumates the marriage in the yichud shteibel. And after that you have the main reception. Typical muslims, got it all bolloxed up. :) (and most non-Orthodox dont do a seperate chassans tisch, or even a kabbalas panim, but have adopted the western custom of a 'cocktail hour' immediately before the meal.) |
| Posted by: Liberalhawk 2005-01-18 3:09:51 PM |
| #6 Oh well, I never really liked wedding cake anyway. |
| Posted by: Tom 2005-01-18 3:09:00 PM |
| #5 It's John "Wee shall be as a city on a hill" Winthrop. Serving food at weddings is un-Islamic. So's dancing, music, the bride and groom holding hands with each other, smiling, and either party enjoying the consummation. |
| Posted by: Fred 2005-01-18 3:04:07 PM |
| #4 Wrong pic, Fred. That's the splendiferous jacobean poet John Donne, who when it came to the ladies was about as unpuritanical as you can get. |
| Posted by: lex 2005-01-18 3:00:16 PM |
| #3 Googled it, from PakNet: The Valima is the Groom's reception. Traditionally it was thrown to prove to the community that the marriage has been consummated. The bride and groom are brought out together and presented as a true husband and wife. There is usually dinner, and a chance for everyone to breathe a sigh of relief that it is all over. Also: Once in the house the bride has to give some money to the groom's brother (relative if he doesn't have any brothers) to allow her to sit down. When the bride arrives into the grooms house the bride waits outside till the grooms parents give some money as a present to welcome the bride in their house and it means she no longer is an outsider but a member of the family. The bride and groom are kept separated till the following morning when the groom's family invite all their relative and friend to celebrate their sons wedding and to announce the arrival of the bride who is now the daughter. When the reception is over the groom and bride go on their honeymoon. Don't know why Pak Supremes are against dinner, unless there's a risk of getting cheese dip all over the automatic weapons? |
| Posted by: Steve 2005-01-18 2:58:50 PM |
| #2 Can anybody explain??? Nope. No parallel Jewish custom this time. Im baffled. |
| Posted by: Liberalhawk 2005-01-18 1:10:08 PM |
| #1 Can anybody explain??? |
| Posted by: gromgorru 2005-01-18 1:05:59 PM |