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| Muslim Gays Seek Lesbians For Wives |
| 2006-06-24 |
| Social Pressures Push Some Into Sexless Marriage On a Web site for gay South Asians, 27-year-old Syed Mansoor uploaded the following message last summer: "Hi, I am looking for a lesbian girl for marriage. I am gay but I would like to get married because of pressure from parents and society. I would like this marriage to be a 'normal' marriage except for the sex part, please don't expect any sexual relationship from me. "Being an Indian gay person, I believe it is so much worth it to give up sex and have a nice otherwise normal family. We can be good friends and don't have to repent all our life for being gay/lesbian." Across the globe and especially in America, hundreds of other gay Muslims have started to pursue marriages of convenience--or MOC, as they are known-- in which gay Muslims seek out lesbian Muslims, and vice versa, for appearances' sake. Mansoor works as an accountant in New York and is a devout Muslim. He abstains from drinking alcohol or eating pork and is particular about offering early morning prayers. To his friends on Wall Street, he is a financial whiz; to his parents, a devoted son. But Mansoor is also part of a burgeoning trend of gay Muslims adopting marriages of convenience. Hard statistics are hard to come by, but on a single Web site for South Asian gays and lesbians seeking such marriages, almost 400 requests had been uploaded. |
| Posted by:ryuge |
| #7 2b: not only win/win but maybe something deeper might develop due to propinquity. |
| Posted by: KBK 2006-06-24 17:39 |
| #6 That settles it. MORE Muslim homo's! -M |
| Posted by: Manolo 2006-06-24 15:04 |
| #5 sounds like a win/win to me. |
| Posted by: 2b 2006-06-24 14:42 |
| #4 Interestingly enough, homosexuals should be given a lot of credit in the Moslem world for rocking the boat. A lot of them risk their lives to challenge not just the anti-homosexual Sharia laws, but also those laws that try to control people based on their gender. In Egypt, for example, they have been holding what are being called "homosexual marriages", with 50-300 attendees. When the police raid them, they claim ignorance and act horrified at the very thought of attending a forbidden mixed-gender party, accusing the police of encouraging immorality by even questioning why everyone at the party is male. Culturally it is permitted for men to hold hands and even sort-of kiss, so it is hard as hell to prove that everybody there is homosexual. And since the whole society is inhibited about even discussing such things, a public trial just makes matters worse. Lesbians get away with even more, outside of forced marriages, because they can only be dealt with by female police. On top of everything else, women in phony marriages control their own finances and can run a business without interference, and are even out of the grasp of the males in their own family. |
| Posted by: Anonymoose 2006-06-24 14:03 |
| #3 But wouldn't the "when are you getting married?" questions only be replaced by "when are you having kids?" questions? I'm not saying that they should come out (obviously a bad idea if they are risking death, literally, by being gay/lesbian), but I'm not sure how a marriage of convenience would make their lives that much easier. |
| Posted by: Swamp Blondie (formerly) Desert Blondie 2006-06-24 13:28 |
| #2 C'mon now. Gay/lesbian Episcopalians don't live in fear of their own families. And, they're allowed to marry someone they actually want to be intimate with -- and even have it officiated by a gay cleric. And no one will ever laugh and say "this person is Episcopalian?" Maybe it's fucked up, but at least no one gets threatened or killed. Until the muzzies show up, that is. |
| Posted by: Ulavins Unineck2030 2006-06-24 10:07 |
| #1 I could have believed this if they were Episcopalians. |
| Posted by: JohnQC 2006-06-24 08:08 |