[DailyMail] At 48, Jane Townsend is beautiful, independent — and single. She keeps fit, takes great care of her appearance and is looking for a man who is active, in good shape, articulate and emotionally open. As I have said in the past elsewhere, the men who are "active, in good shape, articulate and emotionally open" already have boyfriends.
Given her good looks and vivacious nature, eligible suitors must surely be beating a path to her door.
Yet as Jane, from Sheffield, explains, it has been a struggle: ‘The men out there are delusional. I went out with a guy who lied about his age, saying he was 47 when he was 50, who then had the gall to tell me he wanted a younger woman so he, as he put it, “could breed”. Agree with his motives or not, the man was simply being honest. Obviously something Jane wouldn't understand.
'After my divorce, I gave up my prime dating years to raise my two girls, expecting that when they left home, I’d have time left. But there has been a shift and now the men aren’t there. Where I live it’s hard to find someone cultured unless they’re eating yogurt, and the men my age all seem to be — well — more than a little overweight.’
Having been matchmaking single men and women for Femail’s Blind Date column for the past six months, I’d like to say Jane’s experiences are the exception, — but what has struck me is just how many attractive women apply who seem to have so much going for them.
They are in great physical shape, living full and interesting lives. Yet finding suitable men for them to date seems to be a heroic challenge.
This has left me wondering why a generation of single, sexy, solvent women just can’t find love. What immediately strikes female mid‑life daters — of whom I am one — returning to the dating scene in later life after a marriage or long-term relationship, is the lack of single men.
According to Jo Hemmings, a behavioural psychologist and dating coach, there are an estimated seven new women for every man on the dating scene in the 40-55 age group, so availability is clearly a big issue. My guess is that the other six have better figured out that in relationships, nothing ever gets returned. You invest time and personal resources, and the only thing waiting on the horizon is more investment of time and personal resources.
‘I’ve had clients coming to me wondering: “Am I asking too much to find an attractive, independent, solvent guy of my age?” ’ she says.
As she explains, part of the issue is that when divorce strikes, men and women react in different ways.
Men’s relationships frequently overlap; they won’t leave one partner until they find another, so they are never really single.
By contrast, women take longer to recover from a break-up. They often step out of the dating ring completely, sometimes for many years, to rebuild their lives or to focus on bringing up children.
‘When they return to dating, it’s really hard for them,’ says Jo. ‘There aren’t as many men because they have a wider pool. Men realise quite quickly that there are far fewer of them than there are women of a similar age. They then date much younger women, creating a huge void in the market.
‘Traditionally women go for men who are their age or slightly older, so they are left wondering where all the men have gone.’ Fishing
When Jo coaches women on dating, she tells them to accept the reality. ‘It’s just a fact that there is a lack of available decent men,’ she says.
‘It’s tough when you’re looking for love. You have to realise that it’s not about you, it’s just a numbers game.’ Maf is hard.
But the numbers don’t tell the whole story. Men, indoctrinated over generations to pursue younger women, are instinctively reluctant to consider those of a similar age to their own, even ones who look youthful and attractive.
It is something I regularly notice when I set up dates.
Men need to open their eyes to the amazing women in their own age bracket. When an expert tells you you "need" to do something, that is a clear sign you don't "need" to do anything.
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At 48... ‘It’s just a fact that there is a lack of available decent men,’
It's call competition. So many have already been taken and kept by decent women.
looking for a man who is active, in good shape, articulate and emotionally open.
BTW, are you willing to date a man 4 inches shorter than you? Someone with a decent income but not great? A tradesman? Nah, didn't think so. Those are some of the real unspoken standards that shrink your available pool of potentials. As he says Maf is hard.
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I have often found that when you have a significant problem, all you need to do is look in the mirror. You will see the problem staring you back in the face.
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Where have all the good men gone? At that age, we're happily married for decades, and not looking for some bitter, dried up old clam.
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Read "Men on Strike" by Dr. Helen Smith (wife of Glenn Reynolds, the Instapundit)
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#12 yes. The industrialized western world is this way these days. Men have not changed. Women have changed as any feminist will tell you and the result is they are alone. It is a far calmer life for a man alone. One example is the hand held devices or ear phones. Preoccupied and a warning to not disturb. Even if they aren't talking to anyone. These women are just as dissatisfied with women mates. I should say the women my age are in bad shape. Why I don't know. Perhaps hard living. They no longer live longer than men. Welcome to the new way of life. The man cave is looking pretty good right now.
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been divorced 23 yrs now and not looking to re-partner any time soon. I have many female friends - my best friend is female. Last (former high school) girlfriend that wanted to get serious wanted my wallet/pension. Nope
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[AffinityMagazine] A 16 year old Asian teenager who is passionate about social justice and politics. A hardcore feminist, #BLM supporter and LGBTQ+ rights advocate. I also love chocolate, Ariana Grande and cats.
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My first thought was "Who cares?" My second thought was this is a sad commentary on our society. My third thought was this young twerp doesn't really know anything at this age, she is just trying to get attention. There are many other kids who have their heads screwed on straight.
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I felt like saying 'DON'T YELL!" Mrs. JohnQC and the mother-in-law takes care of that function. I have enough trouble with the fake news no less anagram trolls or is it troll anagrams?
h/t Instapundit
Turkey’s relations with the EU and place within NATO have come under increased scrutiny over the past year, especially during Turkish President Recep Tayyip Erdogan's campaign to win a constitutional referendum this April, which many saw as a power grab.
...Since the failed coup against Erdogan last year, a new narrative has emerged amongst his supporters that I call "Erdoganism."
This "Erdoganist" narrative believes that Erdogan is an historic figure who will make Turks great and Muslim’s proud again, and that you have to support him not because Erdogan needs to be supported personally, but because this is how you put your weight behind this great historical project.
By inversion, Erdoganism also suggests that if you do not support Erdogan, you are therefore not a good Turk or not a good Muslim, and you should be prosecuted for that. I would also add that if you oppose Erdogan, you’re more than likely a proxy for foreigners.
Here is Erdoganism par excellence: blending political Islam and Turkish nationalism under Erdogan’s persona, whose leitmotif is that Erdogan is protecting Turkey and the Muslim World against foreign attacks. Those foreigners are usually Westerners, which in the Turkish context often means the Europeans. A strong anti-European and anti-Western animus guides the thinking of the pro-Erdogan bloc.
...The view of Erdogan and his supporters is that Samuel Huntington was right, there is a clash of civilizations, but he was wrong because the Muslims will win. Erdogan does not see NATO necessarily as a place where likeminded countries sharing similar values come together, it’s more his security outlet where he goes to buy security, and he needs a lot of that security against Russia. After they gave up Communism as imperial religion, Russians started reviving Russian nationalism and the view of Russia as defender of Greek Orthodox provoslavnia (literally right and glorious) religion. In this view, Russia is third Rome and liberation of the second Rome = Constantinople is a holy grail
...It used to be that in Washington, the strongest advocates for Turkey were people from the U.S. military. They had great impressions from working with Turks in NATO operations in Bosnia and Kosovo in the 1990s, they were grateful for Turkey’s part in winning the Cold War by blocking the Soviet Union’s access to the warm seas, and they were just very supportive of Ankara in general.
That is now the opposite. I would say that the people who have the most negative views of Turkey in Washington are, unfortunately, in the U.S. military as a result of a series of events, all of which took place under Erdogan’s watch. Turkey’s refusal to join the Iraq war in 2003, the collapse of Turkish-Israeli ties, the Turkish decision to buy Chinese air defense systems (although they backed down on that), Turkey’s recent decision now to buy Russian missiles, and Turkey’s lax policy in allowing radicals to cross into Syria in an effort to undermine Assad, all of these factors have hurt the relationship.
[Breitbart] President Trump gave a full-throated populist speech at a packed rally in West Virginia Thursday, where he took aim at both Republican and Democratic lawmakers for their failures on everything from foreign policy to trade to the inability to scrap Obamacare.
"We don’t need advice from the Washington swamp," he said to the electric crowd in Huntington, West Virginia. "We need to drain the swamp."
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Manufacturing and industry exported to China and elsewhere, job loss, huge national debt load, bank savings account interests at nearly zero, higher taxes, entitlement programs gone wild, public education decline, medical care in near complete collapse, endless wars, the list goes on.
What has the 'swamp' done for us in the past 50 years ?
[Daily Caller] Fox News commentator Charles Krauthammer warned Thursday night that members of the political establishment, including some Republicans, are angling to remove President Trump from office.
In a Fox News interview with Daily Caller co-founder Tucker Carlson following Trump’s rally in West Virginia, Krauthammer warned that removing the sitting president from office would be a "catastrophic mistake" that would "cause a rupture in the country."
"I think we are really headed into very choppy and dangerous constitutional waters. We know what the Democrats want to do: they want to get control of the House and then start impeachment. Now, I happen to think, as you know, I opposed the Trump candidacy, I don’t think he is very well fit for the presidency, but fitness is not a reason for impeachment and removal -- high crimes are," Krauthammer said.
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I've saying from the start that impeachment is likely, because most beltway denizens don't need a reason, just a plausible excuse - which Trump seems intent on providing.
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Impeachment for Obama was never on the table despite his high crimes and misdemeanors because of being black. Leftwing America seems to still be guilt-ridden about race; maybe it's because they are mostly Democrats and have a long history of racism. Trump is a different story, there are no inhibitions about impeachment. The long knives are out from both parties.
[Dhaka Tribune] Nawaz Sharif ... served two non-consecutive terms as prime minister, heads the Pakistain Moslem League (Nawaz). Noted for his spectacular corruption, the 1998 Pak nuclear test, border war with India, and for being tossed by General Musharraf... has been forced to step down as Pakistain’s Prime Minister. On July 28, five bench judges of Pakistain Supreme Court unanimously found Nawaz Sharif guilty and disqualified him from holding office in Pakistain.
He came under the scanner along with his children when they were linked to offshore companies in the Panama papers. It has been alleged that Sharif’s family bought property in the UK with assets disproportionate to their known sources of income.
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There is one thing the ctrl-left and the alt-right agree on: it is impossible to change cultures. If you're born into a culture, all your genetic predispositions make it impossible to change your eating habits and your language, much less your manners, your planning, and your ability to think as a member of this new culture.
But the hardest of all is language, which is virtually impossible to change, which is why we pay for bilingual education for children of Latin immigrants born in the U.S. and sometimes third generation in the U.S.
Because, you see, the best you can achieve in terms of learning a foreign language is the sort of halting, broken speech such as that of children and toddlers. In fact, if your children and grandchildren don't mate with English speakers, your family will never learn to speak the language and will remain an undigested cultural lump in the midst of your adopted culture forever.
This is so much an article of faith on the ctrl-left that I had to monitor my kids like a hawk all through elementary school. If I got caught up in a book Writing one, she means
and wasn’t paying attention, my kids got put in bilingual education. In Spanish. Since they’re half Portuguese, the "compassionate" teachers thought it would be easier for them to do their homework in a related language.
...The only thing that finally made the befuddled products of our teacher-training system stop inflicting Spanish on my children was my mock serious explanation that they were offending my culture, due to how often the Portuguese and Spanish were at war throughout history. And I barely managed not to burst out laughing until I was outside the school.
...The alt-right is similarly so convinced of the genetic markers for language and culture (a part of me wants to go downstairs and tell that to the biologist in the basement, because his whoops of laughter should be audible all through the country) that one particular blogger often sends his minions over to fasten onto every typo and slip of the fingers in the blogs I write first thing in the morning and wholly uncaffeinated and see in them "proof" that I’m thinking in Portuguese. Around here there is something called "Hebrish" people think in Hebrew and translate world by word into English - I used to charge double for Hebrish to English translations (cause you have to reconstruct the original Hebrew and than translate it to English).
...In fact, the only difference between the ctrl-left and the alt-right is how they envision the treatment of these "minority cultures." Mind you, unlike language, culture is genetic. At least, some components. IMO, major difference between tribal cultures (and, in my view, the principal reason they never progressed beyond tribal) is in genes for reciprocity vs. kin selection.
A multi-volume chronology and reference guide set detailing three years of the Mexican Drug War between 2010 and 2012.
Rantburg.com and borderlandbeat.com correspondent and author Chris Covert presents his first non-fiction work detailing
the drug and gang related violence in Mexico.
Chris gives us Mexican press dispatches of drug and gang war violence
over three years, presented in a multi volume set intended to chronicle the death, violence and mayhem which has
dominated Mexico for six years.
Rantburg was assembled from recycled algorithms in the United States of America. No
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[DailyMail] At 48, Jane Townsend is beautiful, independent — and single. She keeps fit, takes great care of her appearance and is looking for a man who is active, in good shape, articulate and emotionally open.
[Daily Caller] Fox News commentator Charles Krauthammer warned Thursday night that members of the political establishment, including some Republicans, are angling to remove President Trump from office.
