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Africa Subsaharan |
Women, not men, choose spouses on island |
2007-02-03 |
ORANGO ISLAND, Guinea-Bissau - He was 14 when the girl entered his grass-covered hut and placed a plate of steaming fish in front of him. Like all men on this African isle, Carvadju Jose Nananghe knew exactly what it meant. Refusing was not an option. His heart pounding, he lifted the aromatic dish, prepared with an ancient recipe, to his lips, agreeing in one bite to marry the girl. "I had no feelings for her," said Nananghe, now 65. "Then when I ate this meal, it was like lightning. I wanted only her." In this archipelago of 50 islands off the western rim of Africa, it's women, not men, who choose. They make their proposals public by offering their grooms-to-be a dish of distinctively prepared fish, marinated in red palm oil. Once they have asked, men are powerless to say no. To have refused, explained Nananghe, remembering the day half a century ago, would have dishonored his family — and in any case, why would he want to choose his own wife? "Love comes first into the heart of the woman," he explained. "Once it's in the woman, only then can it jump into the man." |
Posted by:tipper |
#1 In the cultures where there is free choice, women still pick the men. The game is more subtle, no marinated fish involved, but the result is the same... although men are convinced it's them who made the choice. I, too, was convinced, but in retrospective, I do see things clearly layed out before me. ;-) |
Posted by: twobyfour 2007-02-03 16:44 |