As hordes of bachelors return home to Lebanon for the holiday season, young eligible women who far outnumber their male counterparts in this tradition-bound country are angling for the perfect catch. "This is the time when many young men come back for the holidays and the women want to find that catch," said Samir Khalaf, professor of sociology and head of the Center for Behavioral Research at the American University of Beirut.
"We really have a lopsided demographic problem," he added.
Throughout Lebanon's history young men have tended to emigrate in search of economic prosperity, but the phenomenon became acute during the country's 1975-1990 civil war and subsequent economic downturn and accelerated again after the July-August 2006 war between the militant group Hezbollah and Israel.
Five women for each man
| " There are no boys here anymore so you can pick and choose " Alaa Manasski |
Estimates are that for every eligible man there are five women available in this small country of four million people. That makes for tough competition among women as they try to find Prince Charming.
This year the rivalry is especially pronounced with the Muslim holiday of Eid al-Adha falling close to the Christian holiday of Christmas, and making for an even larger number of expatriate men than usual returning home.
"The competition among the women is not on how to outwit each other but how to find that catch, or lakta as you say in Arabic," Khalaf said. "And that lakta is a guy who has studied and works abroad, has a good career and is unmarried."
Alaa Manasski, 27, is one such candidate. Manasski is a businessman in Qatar and just recently came back to Beirut to spend the holidays with his family. "There are no boys here anymore so you can pick and choose," Manasski said as he surveyed the scene at a trendy nightclub in Beirut's downtown area one recent evening.
Pressure to marry before 30
| " But the problem in Lebanon is that if a woman is not married by age 32, the men think she has a problem or can't have children anymore " Solange Sraih |
"The problem is that first they (the women) want a serious relationship and then a month later they want to get married especially if they know that you live in a Persian Gulf country," he added. "I meet many young women and I tell them that I'm not in a hurry to get married, I'm still young. But when I'm ready she'll definitely be Lebanese."
Solange Sraih, who runs a matchmaking company called Pom D'Amour, said business has been brisk this season as time-strapped bachelors seek to meet the perfect match during their brief visit home.
"I've been very busy and since I set up the company at the end of 2006 I've had four couples marry and two more are planning to wed next year," Sraih told AFP. "But the problem in Lebanon is that if a woman is not married by age 32, the men think she has a problem or can't have children anymore. So there is a lot of pressure on women to marry before they reach 30."